tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2039401712097650356.post8123917168444210706..comments2023-07-02T07:16:24.967-06:00Comments on Musings of a Queer Otter: Excuse me. Do I feel a connection here?Otterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13265205585667335669noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2039401712097650356.post-54675772789942214172011-05-17T16:58:38.808-06:002011-05-17T16:58:38.808-06:00Hello Otter...I so relate. I find it interesting a...Hello Otter...I so relate. I find it interesting as polyamorous people that we go from the guilt of oh dear I have a crush on more then one person to...Oh dear...I can not possibly muster a crush on everyone...even if they have one on me. Polyamory is more meaningful when we occasionally take the time to skim off the cream and throw out the sour milk. You can only LOVE so many. ;-) Beside if you love rope as much as I do...and I know you do...you want Rope to mean something to you. Just because someone else loves rope also...does not mean you will love it with them...you might need to love them first. Sometime I think "players" forget the romance.Lady Annabel Leehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08669851429407165148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2039401712097650356.post-27903351271321481202011-05-17T15:10:12.160-06:002011-05-17T15:10:12.160-06:00Thanks Bubbinga! I'm never afraid of saying n...Thanks Bubbinga! I'm never afraid of saying no, and in fact I say it a lot. I also completely understand the importance of healthy boundaries. I'm one of the best at establishing those boundaries. I was just kind of surprised to find this "guilt" I have over refusing people. Thanks so much for adding to the discussion!Otterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13265205585667335669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2039401712097650356.post-70526742246737730082011-05-17T13:32:47.964-06:002011-05-17T13:32:47.964-06:00Don't ever feel bad about saying no. "No&...Don't ever feel bad about saying no. "No" is one of the most difficult words for many - if not most (myself included) - to say. But boundaries are important, and although some will be put off, YOUR happieness and well-being - both physical and emotional - are top priority.<br /><br />It's okay, and, you should never be made to feel guilty about your choices.<br /><br />Be well,<br /><br />DrewDrew Staffenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00345039744021067174noreply@blogger.com